How to achieve what you want

What is the "Key to Sucess" or the "Secret of Success". Each one of us would like to become an achiever, have a high paying job, start our own business, make money from our own business, save money, save time, look better, lose weight, learn something new, live a longer healthier life, and of all things lead a comfortable life. Whereas the reality is something different from what we want. Have you ever thought why it is so? A few are able to achieve what they want and a majority are not able to achieve.

The common belief is that you need extraordinary capabilities to achieve what you want. This is the farthest from truth. If you look at how people have grown from rags to riches, who have achieved what they want, you will find that they were all just like us. The only differences where: They believed in what they want. They believed in themselves. Do you believe, without a doubt, that you can and will have everything that you want in life? Your answer should be an emphatic "YES". Only then you will be able to go ahead and achieve what you want. If you answered "no" or "maybe" then you will never achieve what you want. Here is a beautiful example I read on a website : If you have a child or if a friend or a relative has a newborn child - then think about that child for a moment. Think about the earliest time that you saw that child. Remember when it couldn't even feed itself or make a sound. It had no motor coordination and didn't really recognize things very well. Now assuming this was a healthy child - when it was at that stage - did you or it's parent - ever doubt that it would learn to walk? The answer is no. Everybody was convinced; everybody believed that the child would learn to walk. They had high self-esteem. Self Esteem is the feeling of pride in yourself. It is the personal feelings or opinions about oneself. How you feel about yourself – how you feel about who you are, the way you act, and how you look. When a person does not think too highly of himself, she is said to have low self-esteem. To be successful in life you should have a high self-esteem of yourself. They were self motivated. Motivation can come from within. It is called as self motivation. Self motivated people don't require external stimuli to goad them to work and achieve their goals. It comes from within, from inside them. Self motivation is the ability to motivate yourself, to find a reason and the necessary strength to do something, without the need of being influenced to do so by another person. Working in a careful and consistent manner without giving up. There are others who need external forces to motivate them. Motivation comes from outside the learner in the form of tangible rewards and punishments such as competition, grades, awards, promotion, pay, etc.

They knew how to think the right way. They had positive attitude. The right way to think is shut off your mind from thinking negative thoughts. Positive thinking is looking at the brighter side Every event has two sides. Practise and learn to look at the brighter side of the events. Motivational thoughts boost your physical and mental energy. Optimism is required for your brain to generate positive thoughts. They were ready to face set backs but never quit without achieving their goals. You must understanding what exactly is quitting. Quitting is completely stopping all activities from achieving your goal. Let us take an example. My goal is to earn enough money to retire after 10 years. For this I pick up a job that will give be a regular income, after 10 years when I quit the job. After working for a couple of months in this job I find that I don't love what I am doing. I am forcefully doing something which I don't enjoy doing. I finally decide to leave this job and look out for something that I enjoy. Here though I have quit the job, it is not quitting. I did not quit from achieving my goal. I only made a change in my plan to achieve my goal. Winners always focus on their goals. They may change their plan or the time taken to achieve their goal. But they will never completely quit from achieving their goal. They knew how to build relationships with others. When you have a goal and a plan to achieve it, you will find that though your efforts form a major part for achieving the goal, you need the cooperation or help of others also in achieving your goal. It is very rare when without anybody else you will be able to achieve your goal. If you are selling a product then you need buyers. Without them your business cannot stay alive. Here building relationships with people, your customers, suppliers, employees becomes important. If you look at history. You will find innumerable individuals and nations who have successfully achieved what they wanted. In all the cases the first step was setting up a goal. Identifying what you want to achieve. Without a goal and a plan to achieve it, you are like a boat without a sail. You are just floating in the direction of the wind. You may be moving but not reaching anywhere. Many of us are not clear on what we want. For becoming an achiever the first step is to identify your goal. What you wish to Achieve. The next is to create your action plan. How you will achieve it and in what time. Create the motivation for achieving your goal.