Optimism and Success. Achieving success is very closely intertwined with optimism. You should learn to be an optimistic personality to be successful in life. Optimism is an essential success factor. Positive thinking and optimism are the two qualities that can make you a cheery and energetic personality. In a real life world where we all live, we are not in control of all that is happening around us. Sometimes what is happening around us makes us feel happy and sometimes it makes us sad and depressed. Under such circumstances how should we respond? There are two ways in which we can respond.
We can keep thinking about all the negative aspects of what is happening, blame our self or somebody else for what is happening or just put up a face with a sulky expression on it. This kind of an attitude will not take us anywhere near our goals. This attitude is the pessimistic attitude that drives away all our friends and relatives. Who wishes to be with some one who is always sulking and complaining?
The other way to respond is to first have a look at what is happening and why it is happening. Decide on how best you can resolve the problem or the issue that is bothering you and making you sad. Many people write down the causes, followed by the repercussions. They find that this makes it easy for them to finding solutions or decide upon the next course of action.
Life can never be the same always. If you expect to live a life where things happen only according to how you want them to be, it will never happen. In fact this very thought will make you a pessimist. What is required is to be aware of the ways to responds to events in your life. It is how you respond to a situation that decides whether you will be happy or sad. People like to be with others who are energetic, who look for solutions to overcome set backs. For building relationships an optimistic attitude is very important.
You expected a promotion but you did not get it but your colleague got it. Now what will you do. You can start blaming your boss, blaming the selection promotion or your colleague. You can even say all forces are acting against you and life is not favorable to you.
On such circumstances I have friends who decide to go on an outing, watch a comedy movie, or play their favorite games or just relax on the beach enjoying the sea breeze and the waves. There after they analyse and find out the reasons for not getting what they wanted. They find out how to overcome these drawbacks and then create a plan to achieve their goal. For each one of us there is a different way in which we feel happy. Find out what makes you happy. Write down on a note book all those things that make you happy. Optimism is being happy. Everyday in the morning make it a point to go thru this list. On the sideline write down those things that irritate you, make you unhappy, fill you with tension and stress. This is to make you aware of such moments and avoid them.
If you think over for a moment with a calm mind about optimism and pessimism, happiness and sadness, you will understand that for all these moods and behaviors you are the only one who is responsible. Once you understand this, things become easy. In fact you can feel a great relief coming over you. You feel stronger. You are not afraid of the end results. You are able to concentrate on what is to be done and how it is to be done for achieving your goal. You stop bothering in your mind about whether you will achieve your goal or not. In this way you will achieve your goals automatically. The most important difference you will feel is your mind clutter has vanished. Your mind is calm.
The things that are happening to you always offer you the choices to respond. Everything - happiness, achieving your goals, building relationships, attitude - depends on how you decide to interpret the situation and respond to the events. So let us take this choice provided to us into our control and make ouselves optimistic and happy. Let us become successful in our life. I am sure you will agree with me that things are not difficult, it is we who make it difficult for us.
