Take about five or ten minutes and write in a column the list of things that - from an objective point of view - you are successful at. These will include such skills as swimming, sports, caring for pets, making a collection, dancing, drama, singing, art, painting, drawing, and so on. In another column, 'Not so good' column write those things which you feel you are not good at that you really find hard.
You will be surprised at the result. There are far more things that you are good at than things you are not so good at. This in itself is a proof that you are better than others. One thing you should remember is that no one is perfect in this world. Each person has his strengths and weaknesses. Understand what your strengths are to succeed in life, to build your self confidence, to build your self-esteem and improve your personality. Build your strengths in a planned manner. Simultaneously work on those areas where you are not so good at. You can improve them also. This is going to be a continuous process. Make it a part of your daily life.
You have to build your self-esteem and self-confidence. It has been my experience that watching motivational movies and reading success stories make energy flow into you.
The truth is, When you're feeling really low on confidence, self-doubt and poor self-esteem can impact every aspect of your life stopping you from having fun and achieving your goals. You should remember at those moments that nobody can make you feel bad about yourself the way you can and it's in your power to change.
Hypnosis or hypnotherapy can also be used since it deals with the reasons for lack of confidence and works on techniques for building self-esteem and self-confidence, helping you to become more assertive. It will help you in finding out what are causes behind your lack of self-esteem and self-confidence.
You must have the desire to want to change things and the desire to regain the confidence that you are looking for. The first and most important thing is to identify the enemy and the enemy is you. You are the one who is the main cause of your lack of confidence and it is you who must initiate the change. Identifying you strengths and weaknesses is the first step toward building self-esteem and self-confidence. For example, a person who is not a natural singer, convinces himself that he is, and starts a failed from the start career move into the singing industry. Constant failure leads him to get disappointed over and over again and slowly this person loses all of his self esteem. Once you know your strengths and your weaknesses you will not make such mistakes. Once you know what your strengths are channelise all your energies into it and you will see your progress from then on. Soon, you will have regained the self confidence that you need to be a better person.
